WOMEN HAVE MORE ECONOMIC AND SOCIAL POWER THAN EVER.
But often it doesn’t feel that way. Often we feel anxious, insecure, exhausted, guilty, burnt out, and afraid.
That is what socially-programmed anxiety does to your brain.
But there is a way to go from feeling completely overwhelmed with self-doubt and insecurities to feeling calm, confident, and in control of your life.
It’s all inside my monthly feminist coaching program…
Have you ever wondered WHY it sometimes feels like you’re living in a split-personality brain?
Because there IS an explanation.
It's not a coincidence that:
- Most women experience imposter syndrome, anxiety, and people-pleasing.
- Women feel anxious about their bodies and appearances.
- Women negotiate less, speak up for themselves less, and generally are more likely to feel disempowered in their own lives (especially if they are women of color, fat women, alternately-abled women, or part of any other disadvantaged group).
- Women in particular are suffering from exhaustion and burnout in staggering numbers — all because of socially-programmed anxiety.
It's because society has taught you how to think in ways that diminish, objectify, and devalue you.
Society has given you unreasonable expectations then judged you for not meeting them.
Worse, it's taught you to judge yourself.
The most insidious thing about society teaching you to feel bad about yourself is that you can't even tell it's happening.
BECAUSE THE CALL IS COMING FROM INSIDE THE HOUSE.
You think the thoughts, and they seem like they are YOUR thoughts.
But they aren’t. They are messages from a poison bottle that you don’t know how to recognize or change. All of the political action in the world isn’t going to change that. And what happens?
- You don’t go after your dreams because you're anxious about failing.
- You feel bad about how you look and worry other people are judging your appearance.
- You make less money because you’re scared to ask for a raise, charge your clients more, or go for that big dream.
- You play small.
- You stay in relationships that aren’t working for way too long because you’re afraid you can’t find anyone better or you blame yourself.
- You care more about what other people think than what you think, even of yourself.
In short, socially-programmed anxiety is running your life without you even knowing.
AND WHEN WE ARE UNFULFILLED, WHAT DO WE DO TO FEEL BETTER?
We spend money and time on sh*t that doesn’t help us actually feel differently in the long-run. Listen, I love a good splurge at Sephora as much as anyone else. But a new lipstick isn’t going to solve my confidence problem when that problem is caused by my anxiety that I’m not smart enough to be taken seriously at work. Right? Right.
That’s why investing in learning how to unf*ck my brain has always been my favorite thing to do with my money, at every level.
WELCOME TO THE CLUTCH.
The Clutch teaches you how to cure socially-programmed anxiety for good.
And that means:
- Not caring if your boss is happy with you, because you are 100% happy with yourself and you don’t need to control what other people think about you to sleep at night.
- Not caring if a Tinder date is attracted to you, because you feel so confident about your value, worth, and yes your hotness, that it doesn’t even cross your mind to feel insecure.
- Not feeling guilty as a working mom because you know you’re doing an amazing job at work and at home, and you’re able to be present and enjoy each part of your life while you’re in it.
- Not caring if other people think you are too loud, too much, too opinionated, too independent, or too bad-ass. Because you are all those things, and they are awesome.
It’s the community of women you didn’t know existed and can’t live without.
I feel different, lighter. I know I have options in how I think, and even with difficult thoughts that I’m still picking apart, because I’ve had changes happen already, there’s this whiff of possibility in the air. I had been diagnosed with severe anxiety a few years ago but it feels much more manageable now.
We are only going to be able to create true freedom when we truly feel free.
Not just intellectually, but emotionally.
Not just in theory, but in reality too.
I KNOW THIS BECAUSE I LIVED IT.
I went to the fanciest of schools (Harvard and Yale, in fact), I marched in all the protests, I racked up every brass ring that was out there for me (hello judicial clerkship, academic fellowships, and feminist awards). And I still felt terrible.
- I pretended to be confident but I was horribly anxious at any sign that anyone might be displeased with me.
- I claimed conventional marriage was outdated but was desperate for a romantic relationship to validate me so I could just feel normal.
- I knew that the media was making me feel terrible about my body but I couldn’t stop hoping that if I just lost 20 pounds all my dreams would come true.
Eventually, in my quest to feel better (and let’s be honest, to “fix” myself because I still thought I needed fixing), I discovered life coaching. I got certified as a life coach, and then as a master coach, by the best coaching school in the world. The tools I was learning to shift my thought patterns helped, and I started to help other women with their minds.
And then I saw it. I realized that the thought patterns my clients were bringing to me weren’t isolated. They weren’t accidental. They weren’t random.
They were a product of the patriarchy. They followed specific patterns that matched how women are socialized and taught to think about themselves.
And yet every woman coming to me thought that she was different. She thought she was crazy. She thought she was alone.
My anxiety levels have gone way down. (Let’s say from an 8 to a 3). And I know the warning signs now that I’m not managing my mind and anxiety. And then I actually have tools to work through whatever’s triggering my anxiety!!! I worked with two different counselors before the Clutch. They talked through what was wrong, but never gave me a concrete ‘something’ that I could do to help myself. Just knowing that I can take care of myself in this way is so liberating.
I REALIZED THAT WOMEN DESERVE MORE THAN FEEL-GOOD AFFIRMATIONS.
They need – we ALL need – concrete effective help getting socially-programmed anxiety out of their brains for good.
I recreated all of my coaching tools using a feminist lens, and tested them on my own brain. They blew my mind, and my clients started solving their socially-programmed anxiety and breaking through to levels of confidence, self-love, and joy they had always imagined were possible for other women…but not for them.
Knowing intellectually about sexism doesn’t translate into self-acceptance or self-love. Because the women’s rights movement is a work in progress. But it’s not enough.
ENTER: THE CLUTCH.
Every day I use a tool. I have learned to observe my thoughts and feelings in a way I never even knew was possible. I have made changes to my business and relationships that have reduced my anxiety by at least a million. I recently did a professional headshot and went in with confidence instead of self-criticism. I remember when people would say that you need to love yourself and I was like well how the fuck am I supposed to do that? Now I have the tools to actually do that!
THE WORLD IS ALWAYS COMING AT YOU WITH NEW CHALLENGES.
But now you have somewhere to go. Anytime. Anywhere. For anything. And a community that has your back.
- Because you’re always going to be a woman in a society built by and for men. You’re always going to need advice, feedback and support in changing your thought patterns, navigating the world, and creating your best life.
- Because a good clutch goes with any outfit and holds all the essentials you need.
- Because clutch is exactly what you need exactly when you need it. And the Clutch is exactly what your brain needs, whenever you need it.
Because the world is always going to be trying to profit off of making you feel anxious about not living up to society's impossible standards.
The diet industry alone is a 70+ billion dollar a year industry in the U.S. alone. SEVENTY BILLION. Are you f*cking kidding me? What a goddamn waste of money, time, and human potential.
You can solve your confidence problem once and for all for a fraction of what you’ll spend on diet cookbooks, cleanses, and weight loss programs over the course of your life. And unlike diets, which are scientifically proven to always fail, this sh*t works. Like, scientifically-validated, published in the Journal of the American Medical Association works.*
Feminism isn’t just about being an individual. It’s about a movement.
JOIN THE CLUTCH.
Cure your socially-programmed anxiety so you can do …
whatever you fucking want.
I was pretty much at breaking point with my anxiety when I joined. Now I’m not and I didn’t even have to quit my job to do it which seems like a miracle from where I was last year. I don’t live every waking minute terrified about what my boss is thinking and I’m actually okay with him thinking negative thoughts about me.
WANNA KNOW ALL THE DETAILS?
Joining the Clutch gives you structure, accountability, and consistency in managing your mind — and that uplevels your whole life. Here’s how we make the magic happen:
THE FEMINIST MINDSET FIX
Discover how to use a simple and life-changing self-coaching process to change the thoughts causing your socially-programmed anxiety, build new thoughts that actually serve you, and create a life you won't regret when you die.
EXPERT TRAINING & COURSES
Each month, you'll unlock a new in-depth course of your choosing. From Friendship & Social Anxiety, to Work & Money, to Self-Esteem, Self-Confidence, & Self- Love, you'll pick and choose how you want to continue to rewire your brain and transform your life.
LIVE COACHING CALLS
You can participate (and get coached!) in LIVE monthly coaching calls with Kara. Our Clutch Coaches also host weekly model calls so you can be supported as you work through your thoughts and deprogram the patriarchy.
EXPERT GUIDANCE
Get coaching support when and where you need it. Pop into Ask the Coaches to post your question and a coach will reply. You can also search topics to see responses to other chickens who may have had a similar question or challenge.
BIPOC-ONLY COACHING CALLS
The patriarchy and how we're socialized affects everyone, but the BIPOC community deals with additional layers of racism and socialization. We provide 1 call per month where BIPOC Clutch members can access safe and intimate coaching. Calls are led alternatingly by Kara and a coach of color.
FACEBOOK COMMUNITY (optional)
24/7 access to a Facebook community of like-minded women, who are all committed to evolution, growth, and empowerment and are excited to trade ideas, discuss this work, and help you apply it to your own life.
When I taught this work privately, my group program was a $10,000 investment (true story!). But you get access to all of the incredible coaching and resources inside the Clutch for just $97/month.
Let me summarize: It’s going to be your favorite place on the Internet as soon as you join.
So if I were you, I’d smash that join button now!
What’s it like to be a member of the Clutch?
After a month in the Clutch you’ll start noticing that you just feel…a bit more chill.
Your anxiety isn’t as intense. When it comes up, you know how to turn the volume down so it doesn’t ruin your day. You’re getting more done and starting to feel more confident about your abilities and your worth. You’re a little nicer to yourself. You’re spending less time scrolling Instagram feeling bad about yourself, and more time blowing your own mind with thought work in the Clutch Facebook group.
After two months in the Clutch you’ll realize you’re going longer between anxiety spikes.
Suddenly, without quite knowing how it happened, you just feel calmer, less judgmental of yourself and less worried about what everyone else is thinking about you all the time. You won’t get freaked out when something unexpected happens, because you know you can handle it. You catch your reflection in the mirror and surprise yourself by thinking, “Damn girl, looking good!” You have more patience with yourself and those around you.
After three months in the Clutch, your brain starts coaching itself.
And after that? The sky is the limit. And the one thing you know for sure is that the Clutch will be there to help you get wherever you want to go.
As a reminder, here’s EVERYTHING you get inside The Clutch
EXPERT TRAINING & COURSES
LIVE COACHING CALLS EVERY MONTH
The Feminist Mindset Fix
BIPOC-only coaching calls
On-demand expert guidance
The exclusive Clutch Facebook Community
When I taught this work privately, my group program was a $10,000 investment (true story!). But you get access to all of the incredible coaching and resources inside the Clutch for just $97/month.
I think the biggest thing is that I have space and quiet in my brain. Like all of that hurrying and worrying and anxiety and running around has been replaced with a brain that is allowed to think what it wants, a body that is willing to feel and process emotions, and a calm that everything will work out as it needs to. I’m letting life happen and also working towards the things I actually want. It’s been beautiful.
Are you tempted to join but worried about how you'll find time to work through all these amazing resources?
I am a bystander in this group. I don’t get on the website often, I don’t do daily models, I don’t listen in on calls, and I don’t participate in coaching. I peruse and read others’ posts. I listen to the weekly podcast. That’s. It.
So let me tell you all what happened yesterday. I got walked down to HR and was told they were eliminating my position.
Let me tell you what also happened yesterday. I didn’t lose my shit. I stood up for myself in that meeting and told them how much of a mistake they are making. I had my own back. I never cried. I came out of there feeling empowered, confident and resourceful.
You don’t have to be a star student in this group to see the effects. Two years ago I would have been crippled with devastation and doom. I would have lived as a victim and not helped myself. I would have had a lack of confidence and felt like an imposter.
Not yesterday!
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As a reminder, here’s EVERYTHING you get inside The Clutch
EXPERT TRAINING & COURSES
LIVE COACHING CALLS EVERY MONTH
The Feminist Mindset Fix
BIPOC-only coaching calls
On-demand expert guidance