Have you ever wondered WHY it sometimes feels like you’re living in a split-personality brain?
Because there IS an explanation.
But they aren’t. They are messages from a poison bottle that you don’t know how to recognize or change.
And these thoughts might feel like they’re splitting your brain in two, as if…
We reach for quick fixes. We spend money and time on sh*t that doesn’t help us actually feel differently in the long-run.
Listen, I love a good splurge at Sephora as much as anyone else. But a new lipstick isn’t going to solve my confidence problem when that problem is caused by my anxiety that I’m not smart enough to be taken seriously at work. Right? Right.
That’s why investing in learning how to unf*ck my brain has always been my favorite thing to do with my money, at every level.
It’s time for a feminist mindset revolution that goes beyond “self-care”, and gets into the art and science of actually transforming your brain.
I feel different, lighter. I know I have options in how I think, and even with difficult thoughts that I’m still picking apart, because I’ve had changes happen already, there’s this whiff of possibility in the air. I had been diagnosed with severe anxiety a few years ago but it feels much more manageable now.
Eventually, in my quest to feel better (and let’s be honest, to “fix” myself because I still thought I needed fixing), I discovered life coaching. I got certified as a life coach, and then as a master coach, by the best coaching school in the world. The tools I was learning to shift my thought patterns helped, and I started to help other women with their minds.
And then I saw it. I realized that the thought patterns my clients were bringing to me weren’t isolated. They weren’t accidental. They weren’t random.
My anxiety levels have gone way down. (Let’s say from an 8 to a 3). And I know the warning signs now that I’m not managing my mind and anxiety. And then I actually have tools to work through whatever’s triggering my anxiety!!! I worked with two different counselors before the Clutch. They talked through what was wrong, but never gave me a concrete ‘something’ that I could do to help myself. Just knowing that I can take care of myself in this way is so liberating.
Every day I use a tool. I have learned to observe my thoughts and feelings in a way I never even knew was possible. I have made changes to my business and relationships that have reduced my anxiety by at least a million. I recently did a professional headshot and went in with confidence instead of self-criticism. I remember when people would say that you need to love yourself and I was like well how the fuck am I supposed to do that? Now I have the tools to actually do that!
The diet industry alone is a 70+ billion dollar a year industry in the U.S. alone. SEVENTY BILLION. Are you f*cking kidding me? What a goddamn waste of money, time, and human potential.
You can solve your confidence problem once and for all for a fraction of what you’ll spend on diet cookbooks, cleanses, and weight loss programs over the course of your life.
Cure your socially-programmed anxiety so you can do …
whatever you fucking want.
I was pretty much at breaking point with my anxiety when I joined. Now I’m not and I didn’t even have to quit my job to do it which seems like a miracle from where I was last year. I don’t live every waking minute terrified about what my boss is thinking and I’m actually okay with him thinking negative thoughts about me.
Discover how to use a simple and life-changing self-coaching process to change the thoughts causing your socially-programmed anxiety, build new thoughts that actually serve you, and create a life you won't regret when you die.
Each month, you'll unlock a new in-depth course of your choosing. From Friendship & Social Anxiety, to Work & Money, to Self-Esteem, Self -Confidence & Self -Love, you'll pick and choose how you want to continue to rewire your brain and transform your life.
You can participate (and get coached!) in LIVE monthly coaching calls with Kara. Our Clutch Coaches also host weekly model calls so you can be supported as you work through your thoughts and deprogram the patriarchy.
Get coaching support when and where you need it. Pop into Ask the Coaches to post your question and a coach will reply. You can also search topics to see responses to other members who may have had a similar question or challenge.
The patriarchy and how we're socialized affects everyone, but the BIPOC community deals with additional layers of racism and socialization. We provide 1 call per month where BIPOC Clutch members can access safe and intimate coaching. Calls are led alternatingly by Kara and a coach of color.
24/7 access to a Facebook community of like-minded women, who are all committed to evolution, growth, and empowerment and are excited to trade ideas, discuss this work, and help you apply it to your own life.
Your anxiety isn’t as intense. When it comes up, you know how to turn the volume down so it doesn’t ruin your day. You’re getting more done and starting to feel more confident about your abilities and your worth. You’re a little nicer to yourself. You’re spending less time scrolling Instagram feeling bad about yourself, and more time blowing your own mind with thought work in the Clutch Facebook group.
Suddenly, without quite knowing how it happened, you just feel calmer, less judgmental of yourself and less worried about what everyone else is thinking about you all the time. You won’t get freaked out when something unexpected happens, because you know you can handle it. You catch your reflection in the mirror and surprise yourself by thinking “damn girl, looking good!” You have more patience with yourself and those around you.
I think the biggest thing is that I have space and quiet in my brain. Like all of that hurrying and worrying and anxiety and running around has been replaced with a brain that is allowed to think what it wants, a body that is willing to feel and process emotions, and a calm that everything will work out as it needs to. I’m letting life happen and also working towards the things I actually want. It’s been beautiful.
I am a bystander in this group. I don’t get on the website often, I don’t do daily models, I don’t listen in on calls, and I don’t participate in coaching. I peruse and read others’ posts. I listen to the weekly podcast. That’s. It.
So let me tell you all what happened yesterday. I got walked down to HR and was told they were eliminating my position.
Let me tell you what also happened yesterday. I didn’t lose my shit. I stood up for myself in that meeting and told them how much of a mistake they are making. I had my own back. I never cried. I came out of there feeling empowered, confident and resourceful.
You don’t have to be a star student in this group to see the effects. Two years ago I would have been crippled with devastation and doom. I would have lived as a victim and not helped myself. I would have had a lack of confidence and felt like an imposter.