And sometimes it does feel that way.
Sometimes we feel confident, empowered, even brave.
Have you ever wondered WHY it sometimes feels like you’re living in a split-personality brain?
Because there IS an explanation.
But they aren’t. They are messages from a poison bottle that you don’t know how to recognize or change. All of the political action in the world isn’t going to change that. And what happens?
We spend money and time on sh*t that don’t help us actually feel differently in the long-run. Listen, I love a good splurge at Sephora as much as anyone else. But a new lipstick isn’t going to solve my confidence problem when that problem is caused by my thought that I’m not smart enough to be taken seriously at work. Right? Right.
That’s why investing in learning how to unf*ck my brain has always been my favorite thing to do with my money, at every level.
Eventually, in my quest to feel better (and let’s be honest, to “fix” myself because I still thought I needed fixing), I discovered life coaching. I got certified as a life coach, and then as a master coach, by the best coaching school in the world. The tools I was learning to shift my thought patterns helped, and I started to help other women with their minds.
And then I saw it. I realized that the thought patterns my clients were bringing to me weren’t isolated. They weren’t accidental. They weren’t random.
I recreated all of my coaching tools using a feminist lens, and tested them on my own brain. They blew my mind, and my clients started breaking through to levels of confidence, self-love, and joy they had always imagined were possible for other women…but not for them.
Knowing intellectually about sexism doesn’t translate into self-acceptance or self-love. Because the women’s rights movement is a work in progress. But it’s not enough.
I don’t think it matters how old you are to start working on yourself – in fact the earlier the better! I’m 22 now and I’m so grateful every day to have discovered this work when I did because it used to feel like every day was a struggle, and now I’m actually excited by uncertainty (isn’t that crazy!!).
A huge part of why this work is so effective is knowing that you’re not alone and it’s empowering to be in a group of such intelligent and strong women from all around the world. A lot of the time people will bring up things that you can 100% relate to and so (1) you realize you’re not the only one going through this, (2) you get insight on something you might have been too afraid to bring up, and (3) nobody is here to judge you. Even better, you also realize that by sharing your story and working through your thoughts, you might also be helping someone else.
The diet industry alone is a 68 billion dollar a year industry in the US alone. SIXTY EIGHT BILLION. Are you f*cking kidding me? What a goddamn waste of money, time, and human potential.
You can solve your confidence problem once and for all for a fraction of what you’ll spend on diet cookbooks, cleanses, and weight loss programs over the course of your life. And unlike diets, which are scientifically proven to always fail, this sh*t works.
Discover how to use a simple and life-changing self-coaching process to deprogram the patriarchy, build new thoughts that actually serve you, and create any change you want in your life.
Each month, you'll unlock a new in-depth course of your choosing. From Friendship & Social Anxiety, to Work & Money, to Self Love & Self Acceptance, you'll pick and choose how you want to continue to rewire your brain and transform your life.
You can participate (and get coached!) in LIVE monthly coaching calls with Kara. Our Clutch Coaches also host weekly model calls so you can be supported as you work through your thoughts and deprogram the patriarchy.
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The patriarchy and how we're socialized affects everyone, but the BIPOC community deals with additional layers of racism and socialization. We provide 1 call per month where BIPOC Clutch members can access safe and intimate coaching.
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I am so excited about living the rest of my life knowing how to manage my mind and, frankly, do what I want! Being in a group with women from many different backgrounds and at various points in their lives has taught me that we are almost never alone in our struggles and that nothing is “supposed” to happen in any specific way.
It’s like having a book club with strong, intelligent women who are all here in this judgement free zone with you to unfuck your brains together! Your problems are different but also similar, and from that you learn so much. I am so excited now for what’s ahead of me and am not afraid of struggle because it is now my friend. This group gave me the female companionship, support, guidance and mentorship that I never knew I needed, but ended up changing my life.