WOMEN HAVE MORE ECONOMIC AND SOCIAL POWER THAN EVER.
And sometimes it does feel that way.
Sometimes we feel confident, empowered, even brave.
But often it doesn’t feel that way. Often we feel anxious, insecure, exhausted, guilty, burnt out, and afraid.
Have you ever wondered WHY it sometimes feels like you’re living in a split-personality brain?
Because there IS an explanation.
AND IT'S NOT BECAUSE THERE IS SOMETHING WRONG WITH YOU.
It's not a coincidence that:
- Most women experience imposter syndrome, anxiety, and people-pleasing.
- Women start hating their bodies before grade school is even over.
- Women negotiate less, speak up for themselves less, and generally are more likely to feel disempowered in their own lives (especially if they are women of color, fat women, alternately-abled women, or part of any other disadvantaged group).
- Women in particular are suffering from exhaustion and burnout in staggering numbers.
It’s because sexism has gotten inside your brain.
Society has taught you how to think in ways that diminish, objectify, and devalue you.
The most insidious thing about society teaching you to feel bad about yourself is that you can't even tell it's happening.
BECAUSE THE CALL IS COMING FROM INSIDE THE HOUSE.
You think the thoughts, and they seem like they are YOUR thoughts.
But they aren’t. They are messages from a poison bottle that you don’t know how to recognize or change. All of the political action in the world isn’t going to change that. And what happens?
- You don’t go after your dreams because what if you fail and what will people think?
- You hate your body, which is only ever trying to love you.
- You make less money.
- You play small.
- You stay in relationships that aren’t working for way too long.
- You care more about what other people think than what you think, even of yourself.
In short, you smother your authentic self and desires again and again and again, all to win some prize that never comes.
AND WHEN WE ARE UNFULFILLED, WHAT DO WE DO TO FEEL BETTER?
We spend money and time on sh*t that don’t help us actually feel differently in the long-run. Listen, I love a good splurge at Sephora as much as anyone else. But a new lipstick isn’t going to solve my confidence problem when that problem is caused by my thought that I’m not smart enough to be taken seriously at work. Right? Right.
That’s why investing in learning how to unf*ck my brain has always been my favorite thing to do with my money, at every level.
WELCOME TO THE CLUTCH.
The Clutch teaches you how to liberate yourself from the inside out. And that means:
- Not caring if your boss is happy with you, because you are 100% happy with yourself and you don’t need to control what other people think about you to sleep at night.
- Not caring if a Tinder date is attracted to you, because you feel so confident about your value, worth, and yes your hotness, that it doesn’t even cross your mind to feel insecure.
- Not feeling guilty as a working mom because you know you’re doing an amazing job at work and at home, and you’re able to be present and enjoy each part of your life while you’re in it.
- Not caring if other people think you are too loud, too much, too opinionated, too independent, or too bad-ass. Because you are all those things, and they are awesome.
It’s the community of women you didn’t know existed and can’t live without.
One of the best parts of the Clutch is the diversity inside the community.
We are only going to be able to create true freedom when we truly feel free.
Not just intellectually, but emotionally.
Not just in theory, but in reality too.
I KNOW THIS BECAUSE I LIVED IT.
I went to the fanciest of schools (Harvard and Yale, in fact), I marched in all the protests, I racked up every brass ring that was out there for me (hello judicial clerkship, academic fellowships, and feminist awards). And I still felt terrible.
- I pretended to be confident but I was horribly anxious at any sign that anyone might be displeased with me.
- I claimed conventional marriage was outdated but was desperate for a romantic relationship to validate me so I could just feel normal.
- I knew that the media was making me feel terrible about my body but I couldn’t stop hoping that if I just lost 20 pounds all my dreams would come true.
Eventually, in my quest to feel better (and let’s be honest, to “fix” myself because I still thought I needed fixing), I discovered life coaching. I got certified as a life coach, and then as a master coach, by the best coaching school in the world. The tools I was learning to shift my thought patterns helped, and I started to help other women with their minds.
And then I saw it. I realized that the thought patterns my clients were bringing to me weren’t isolated. They weren’t accidental. They weren’t random.
They were a product of the patriarchy. They followed specific patterns that matched how women are socialized and taught to think about themselves.
And yet every woman coming to me thought that she was different. She thought she was crazy. She thought she was alone.
Self-coaching has given me deep love and compassion for myself.
I REALIZED THAT WOMEN DESERVE MORE THAN FEEL-GOOD AFFIRMATIONS.
They need – we ALL need – concrete effective help getting negative social messages out of their brains for good.
I recreated all of my coaching tools using a feminist lens, and tested them on my own brain. They blew my mind, and my clients started breaking through to levels of confidence, self-love, and joy they had always imagined were possible for other women…but not for them.
Knowing intellectually about sexism doesn’t translate into self-acceptance or self-love. Because the women’s rights movement is a work in progress. But it’s not enough.
ENTER: THE CLUTCH.
It's empowering to be in the company of such strong, intelligent women from around the world – all dealing with similar thoughts and challenges.
I don’t think it matters how old you are to start working on yourself – in fact the earlier the better! I’m 22 now and I’m so grateful every day to have discovered this work when I did because it used to feel like every day was a struggle, and now I’m actually excited by uncertainty (isn’t that crazy!!).
A huge part of why this work is so effective is knowing that you’re not alone and it’s empowering to be in a group of such intelligent and strong women from all around the world. A lot of the time people will bring up things that you can 100% relate to and so (1) you realize you’re not the only one going through this, (2) you get insight on something you might have been too afraid to bring up, and (3) nobody is here to judge you. Even better, you also realize that by sharing your story and working through your thoughts, you might also be helping someone else.
THE WORLD IS ALWAYS COMING AT YOU WITH NEW CHALLENGES.
But now you have somewhere to go. Anytime. Anywhere. For anything. And a community that has your back.
- Because you’re always going to be a woman in a society built by and for men. You’re always going to need advice, feedback and support in changing your thought patterns, navigating the world, and creating your best life.
- Because a good clutch goes with any outfit and holds all the essentials you need.
- Because clutch is exactly what you need exactly when you need it. And the Clutch is exactly what your brain needs, whenever you need it.
Because the world is always going to be trying to profit off making you feel bad about yourself.
The diet industry alone is a 68 billion dollar a year industry in the US alone. SIXTY EIGHT BILLION. Are you f*cking kidding me? What a goddamn waste of money, time, and human potential.
You can solve your confidence problem once and for all for a fraction of what you’ll spend on diet cookbooks, cleanses, and weight loss programs over the course of your life. And unlike diets, which are scientifically proven to always fail, this sh*t works.
Feminism isn’t just about being an individual. It’s about a movement.
JOIN THE CLUTCH.
The Clutch helped me see my interaction in the world in a new way – LIFE CHANGING!
WANNA KNOW ALL THE DETAILS?
Joining the Clutch gives you structure, accountability, and consistency in managing your mind - and that uplevels your whole life. Here’s how we make the magic happen:
THE FEMINIST MINDSET FIX
Discover how to use a simple and life-changing self-coaching process to deprogram the patriarchy, build new thoughts that actually serve you, and create any change you want in your life.
EXPERT TRAINING & COURSES
Each month, you'll unlock a new in-depth course of your choosing. From Friendship & Social Anxiety, to Work & Money, to Self Love & Self Acceptance, you'll pick and choose how you want to continue to rewire your brain and transform your life.
LIVE COACHING CALLS
You can participate (and get coached!) in LIVE monthly coaching calls with Kara. Our Clutch Coaches also host weekly model calls so you can be supported as you work through your thoughts and deprogram the patriarchy.
EXPERT GUIDANCE
Get coaching support when and where you need it. Pop into Ask the Clutch Coaches to post your question and a coach will reply. You can also search topics to see responses to other chickens who may have had a similar question or challenge.
BIPOC-ONLY COACHING CALLS
The patriarchy and how we're socialized affects everyone, but the BIPOC community deals with additional layers of racism and socialization. We provide 1 call per month where BIPOC Clutch members can access safe and intimate coaching.
FACEBOOK COMMUNITY (optional)
24/7 access to a Facebook community of like-minded women, who are all committed to evolution, growth, and empowerment and are excited to trade ideas, discuss this work, and help you apply it to your own life.
The most amazing part? That's $3,975 of value, every month, but you get it for only $97 a month. Yeah, you heard me right.
Let me summarize: It’s going to be your favorite place on the Internet as soon as you join.
So if I were you, I’d smash that join button now!
What’s it like to be a member of the Clutch?
After a month in the Clutch you’ll start noticing that you just feel…a bit more chill.
After two months in the Clutch you’ll realize it’s been a while since you took sh*t personally.
After three months in the Clutch, your brain starts coaching itself.
And after that? The sky is the limit. And the one thing you know for sure is that the Clutch will be there to help you get wherever you want to go.
Watching others get coached shows me I'm not alone. The Clutch is inspiring!
Are you tempted to join but worried about how you'll find time to work through all these amazing resources?
The Clutch changed my life. It gave me the female companionship, support, guidance and mentorship I never knew I needed!
I am so excited about living the rest of my life knowing how to manage my mind and, frankly, do what I want! Being in a group with women from many different backgrounds and at various points in their lives has taught me that we are almost never alone in our struggles and that nothing is “supposed” to happen in any specific way.
It’s like having a book club with strong, intelligent women who are all here in this judgement free zone with you to unfuck your brains together! Your problems are different but also similar, and from that you learn so much. I am so excited now for what’s ahead of me and am not afraid of struggle because it is now my friend. This group gave me the female companionship, support, guidance and mentorship that I never knew I needed, but ended up changing my life.
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